10 unhealthy dating patterns and how to break them
Comparatively speaking, where post-dissolutions of marriage between two healthy personalities can work through issues, the unhealthy, high conflict personalities post dissolution always tend to remain in never-ending drama.
This is due in part to the healthy personality not establishing solid boundaries from their former abuser.
As there is usually a healthy personality involved in such dysfunctional former relationships, then it’s a matter of emotional discipline, emotional maturity, and learning coping skills.
Whereas, the NPD has no presence of conscience, hence their ability to move on and seek a new victim or supply.
What the complete detachment and no contact process will create is and “out of sight, out of mind” condition whereby pattens of behavior will change if appropriate measures of action are solid on behalf of the healthy personality involved.
Otherwise, it can continue to be a “hell on earth.” Yes, it is up to you, because you must remember, they will never change!
So many times after such a relationship is over, we tend to open our “emotional door” once more and the madness begins once again.
This enables your abuser rather than disarming them.If you were in a relationship with an NPD, most likely they will move on much more quickly than a BPD.